What is Conscious Uncoupling? with Greg Wheeler

What is Conscious Uncoupling?

Conscious Uncoupling draws on Katherine Woodward Thomas’s steps outlined below. Working with a Conscious Uncoupling coach individually or as a couple will help you:

• Improve some or all your relationships.
• Learn what you don’t know you don’t know about yourself and how to gently heal, learn and grow from past hurts and some traumas so you avoid repeating them.
• Find out what’s blocking or holding you back from creating a happier life and one you love. Many of you will experience a deep positive self-identity transformation towards a happier, healthier, and more loving version of yourself.
• Create a powerful intention for the future you want that helps you decide to and eventually to Uncouple or Recouple. Then I help you use provided tools to achieve it.

More about how Conscious Uncoupling empowers clients:

1. Get honest about where you are. What is happening in your relationship and life? What hurts, what still matters, and what have you been trying to change? You can begin there.
2. Get clear on what you want. You may be wondering whether to stay, try again, take some space, or leave. You slow it down, so your next step comes from clarity instead of from overwhelm.
3. Find Emotional Freedom. A breakup can bring grief, anger, fear, blame, and shame. You make room for those feelings and you get steady, so they do not make every decision for you.
4. Reclaim Your Power and Your Life. You're guided to learn to see and own your part and choose how you show up now, even if your partner is not doing this work with you. That doesn't mean taking responsibility for their choices. It means taking responsibility for yours by loving yourself enough to set boundaries and enforce them when necessary.
5. Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart. Together with your coach, you look for the old story and false beliefs underneath the latest fight. It might sound like “I do not matter”, “I’m not good enough” or “I am not wanted.” Seeing it gives you a chance to heal, grow, and change the pattern.
6. Come back to yourself. The old story is not the whole truth of you. Notice how it feels in your body when it takes over, then practice coming back to your wiser, steadier self.
7. Become a Love Alchemist. Honor what was good, capture the learning, and own where we may have caused hurt. Where it is appropriate, make real amends and begin to clear the air.
8. Practice having conversations that matter. Say what you feel, need, and want with honesty and care. Listen with curiosity, speak up for yourself, and set boundaries that make what happens next more workable.
9. Keep your kids out of the middle. They are watching and learning from how you both behave. You'll work to lower the conflict and make practical agreements that give them and extended family more safety and stability.
10. Create Your Happy Even After Life. You get clear on what you want your future to look like and take better steps toward it. That may mean a respectful separation and co-parenting plan, or if you both choose it, with some joint work, a conscious recoupling.

Greg Wheeler is a Conscious Uncoupling Coach and a Love and Relationship Coach. In his Conscious Uncoupling work, he draws on Katherine Woodward Thomas’s five steps, his life experience, on what he's have learned helping 400+ clients through relationship pain, separation, and divorce for 10+ years.

Note:

1 There are a number of professionally qualified certified Conscious Uncoupling coaches and as Katherine intended, we each have our own unique way of coaching the Conscious Uncoupling program. This is my outline of the way I do the program.

2 Please be aware that I am one of a limited number of Katherine’s certified coaches that are skilled and were approved by KWT to do Conscious Uncoupling programs with couples.

Contact Greg: https://divorcenetworkpro.com/professionals/greg-wheeler