The Biggest Question I Get from Clients is…
“Why doesn’t my wife seem sad about the end of our marriage?”
Here’s the situation: Your wife asks you to move out of the house. She’s filing for divorce. She doesn’t bat an eyelash, shed a tear, or show any emotion as she changes the locks and puts your stuff in the driveway.
I’ve been there. I know how confusing and painful it is. It feels like she just flipped a switch and shut off all emotions. Meanwhile, you’re drowning in grief, disbelief, and a thousand unanswered questions.
Want to know the truth?
➡️ It was painful, emotional, and traumatizing for her… just not at the same time as you.
➡️ She went through the breakdown, the overthinking, the late-night crying—before she ever told you she wanted out.
➡️ She talked to friends, saw a therapist, hired a lawyer, and processed her emotions before you even knew what was coming.
💡 She is ahead of you in the shift from emotion to action—but you will catch up.
Right now, it may feel impossible to imagine a time when you’ll feel stable, strong, or even happy again. But trust me, you will. The key is to focus on what you can control while you work through the emotions naturally.
Your Survival Plan
Until your mind and heart start catching up with the reality of the situation, here’s how to keep yourself afloat:
✔️ Limit direct contact with your ex. Stick to email or a co-parenting app if you have kids. Unfollow, unfriend, and remove daily reminders of their life without you.
✔️ See your doctor. If you’re struggling with sleep, anxiety, or depression, medication may help. This is not the time to “tough it out” or suffer in silence.
✔️ Get outside. Fresh air, movement, and the real world can help shift your perspective. Even a daily walk can be a game-changer.
✔️ Work with a coach or therapist. You need support from people who have been through this before and can help you move forward. This isn’t just about survival—it’s about building a life you actually want to live.
💥 I did it. And I know you can too.
You may not see it now, but this is the start of something new. You have the chance to rebuild your life on your terms—strong, free, and fully in control of your future.
So, take a deep breath. One step at a time. You’ve got this.
Jason Scriven
Jason Scriven is a divorce recovery coach who helps men navigate separation and rebuild their lives with confidence. After facing his own challenges post-divorce, Jason created The Scriven Program to guide others through the process with structured support and a clear plan. His work focuses on helping individuals regain self-respect, strengthen relationships with their children, and embrace a future they can be proud of.
🔗Website: The Scriven Program
📩 Email: jason@scrivenprogram.com
📞 Phone: +1 (250) 516-5903